When to let go or not?

by LimsyDoll
(California)

Recently, an ex boyfriend return to cause more heartache or is he for real this time?

I loved and gave all my heart and soul to the relationship of 3 yrs. It ended with a "big bang", like a balloon filled with too much hot air than it can handle and no closure for either of us until he recently called, this was over a month ago.

Since the big bang and convinced we had no future together, I worked diligently to move on with my life.

Just when thing are great, he had to ring me. So it was quite a surprise to hear from him.

Since he's made contact, he hasn't acknowledge the hurt he has caused me nor does he acknowledge there has been a 5 months gap since we last spoken to each other.

He acts like if we just had a really really bad tiff and he wants to fix the situation with a half hearted apology.

I questioned his intent, purpose, position and I never got a honest heartfelt answer. I'd know it when I hear it.

He saids he is here to see if there is a chance for us to restore our connection.

I was not happy with the lack of thinking when I questioned him how he was planning to do that.
His response was that we need to "hang out."

Given the simplicity of his brain, I was not surprised. Hence, I went back to the rule of thumb: actions speaks louder than words.

To me, the situation is simple, forget the past, live in the present.

So I am giving myself the chance to see if restoring my hope for a future with him is possible at last, but his love and affections are very lacking.

I am frustrated, but am I more than likely disillusioned? I only have this one life and I want to be happy so can I please get a reality check?