i've been that guy. i keep resolving that i'm over her, then get weak and contact her again (i seem to make it 6-9 months between contacts). Why do i do it? well, there are a number of reasons. first of all, out of genuine concern. she was not emotionally healthy when we got involved, and each time i would contact her it was to make sure she was ok. secondly, she sent me through such an emotional rollercoaster durring our involvement that i've honestly never felt as alive as i did when i was with her. She brought to me the happiest moments of my life, and i suffered the most torturous of anguish when i lost her. Who i am today is a direct result of the little time we shared.
ive been doing better though, havn't tried to contact her in a couple of years, (our involvement was 10 years ago) we've each gone through a failed marriages since then and after seeing what's available out here, i've given up. not just on her, but on all relationships. ok, the fact that i can't find a real person to compare with who i've made her into in my memory doesn't help, but after all this time i'm not the same person, and even although we've been out of touch for so long, i know she's not the same person either. time has a funny way of changing us, and i guess i just want to remember her in all her glory. i still think about her though, i just don't think that telling her so would do either of us any good.
Nov 09, 2007
why does he keep coming back? by: Anonymous
why dont you simply ask him what he wants.is he confused with his feelings for you(that is if he has one).i think you should be frank with him and let him decide on what he wants,nobody wants an indecisive partner in a relationship.
Oct 27, 2007
because you "complete" him by: Anonymous
guys roam, and they roam for a purpose...to feel good.
it makes them feel good, apprecitated, in control, when he sweeps a woman off her feet. But once that's happened, the excitement is no longer there...
You let him know that you were head over heels for him, and then he took off. My guess is you've been trying to get over this guy since he left or everytime he leaves you, and part of that meant staying low profile etc.
so to keep his inventory of worshipers, he's gotta make sure you're interest level never falls below a level where he's no longer meaningful in your life. To do that, he calls, he writes, or he sends SMS...or whatever medium that he knows will get your attention pretty damn quickly.
Judging from your question, it's safe to say he's succeeded again in getting your attention. Get off it! He's back to satisfy his craving for attention, not to satisfy your needs. Good on you for asking this questoin though, and here's my opinion...ignore this person. find someone else!!!
