That phone call.
You are waiting for it.
He hasn't called. Yet. Again.
Why men don't call?
I check the phone tone to make sure that the phone works.
I check to see if my cell phone is open. Maybe he has left a message and it hasn't shown yet on my screen.
I check my voice mail.
Like many women, I wonder about it when I have a new romantic prospect. When is he going to call?
I think that a man that is interested in knowing more about you and ready for a relationship should call between 24h-72 hours after the evening.
The average is 48 hours. Beyond that, his interest is not strong enough for the different reasons listed in this article.
According to Dr. John Gray (Mars and Venus on a Date), men are like emotional camels. Camels can walk through the desert for days without needing any water. Men can spend days without a need for a feminine presence.
That is a satisfying explanation. The majority of men don't seem to be in a hurry to connect with women.
Another reason why man don't call is they have to decide when it is the right moment to call. Men are really sensitive to rejection. They have the jitters just to think that they have to call that girl. It could be from past experiences.
According to the book, “What Men Want, Gerstman, Pizzo, Seldes” sometimes, just the though of leaving a message and the girl doesn't return the call is a major rejection for them. It could be an enough reason for why man don't call.
Why man don't call can be that afterwards, as he is reminiscing the conversation that you both had he feels that you are not his type. You don't need to take it personally because you have had those same feelings for other guys in the past. It's part of dating.
Why man don't call could be because he is not ready to get involved. You don't necessarily share that kind of personal information with a stranger. Maybe he will keep it for later, when he will be ready in 6 months to 2 years. I know, it is long but some guys are just like that.
Why man don't call maybe because you were just a challenge to him. Disappointing, but unfortunately it could be true. You can look at the bride side and take it as a compliment.
Wman don't call could be that he has been unexpectedly busy or sick. If this is the case, then he will call within a week and explain why he hasn't called before without you asking for it.
If he doesn't mention anything, you know now that the guy has no good manners or does not have respect for you or any women. You dump him.
Why man don't call could be that he is involved with someone else. He hasn't told you about it. It has nothing to do with you. It is about his current dating situation.
Now you are maybe asking yourself:
“What makes the man call?”
The guy has to feel that he had a great connection with you. I use to believe that the connection had to be on an intellectual level. I think it is still true but it is still not quite enough. That was one of the reasons why man don't call.
The connection had to be on an emotional level.
While you are having a conversation with him, look at him straight in the eyes. Smile while you do that.
Also, touch his arm once in a while as you are making a point or laughing. Invite to talk to your ear once in a while so he can smell your perfume, your hair.
And as he is leaving or you are leaving, keep looking at him one last time and smile at him.
You will haunt his dreams that night. It will be difficult for him not to call you after this.
What to do if you are still obsessed with the man?
You could give him a call.
Beware; if you are doing this, be aware that you are taking risks of deflating the interest. The first moments of a starting relationship are crucial for its success.
Men are hunters; the more they hunt, the more they get attached.
None of my male friends agree with me on this. Some of them strongly disagree. Others won't admit it.
I don't care about those opinions because that is what I have witnessed. My male friends who have proposed to their girlfriends were the one when the girl was independent and careless.
When you will call back, call when you are not upset. Avoid asking him why he hasn't called yet. You'll have better chances of keeping the conversation light. He will find you charming. Let him ask for a date.
If he doesn't ask to see you after this, let it go. Forget about it and move on.
In the end, you will be much happier.