wife's inapropriate questions to her ex?

My wife and I have been together for 1 1/2 years. I am struggling with something that I over heard her asking her ex-husband on the phone.

Normally their conversations aren't like this, they tend to be tense and she gets so frustrated with his hyperness and his inability to make decisions with their furniture company.

She found out that he recently took one of their long time friends to Vegas, a place my wife and he went extensively when they were married. She also knew this woman was attracted to him while they were married.

She started asking him how many times they have gone and if he screwed her (her own words). Then she moved on to another woman he has been seeing, asking about her physical attributes, if she is tall and long legs cause I know you like long legs and all the while keeps saying "I don't care, just curious" but after hearing enough questions I come into the room and ask why the hell do you care and of course she says she is just curious but immediately hangs up.

Of course a heated discussion ensues of me saying she still cares for him and is jealous, which she denies, that she loves me and only wants me, she doesn't care for him and she was just curious.

My question though is really, why would she be curious if she didn't care. I know I couldn't care less what my ex is doing or who she is seeing.

I am really struggling with this so any help would be appreciated.

Reply By Samson, True Love Advisor

It's obvious she cares that her ex is going on rampage with all her former friends.

The fact that she cares does not necessarily mean that she still has affection for him or that she is still attracted to him.

It sounds to me like she felt that what is now happening is an affirmation that her suspicions about her ex were correct all the time.

Can you feel the anger tha boils inside her?

She could have taken the discussion too far in the heat of her anger.

I suggest you talk this through and lay before her the kind of conversations or behaviours with her ex that are unacceptable to you. Then define the limits as the head of the family.

I'm sure you can resolve this amicably.