Your Star Does Not Work With Her

I have a problem. It goes thus.

There's a beautiful, gentle & easy-going lady i met when i was in the college striving to obtain N.C.E CERTIFICATE. (ie- College of education), some years back.

Things were rough at initial stage because she's courting with some one before we met, but d problem is that her family was against their relationship, but when she sees that am a serious type, she later dance to my rythm.

We were so close to an extent that my H.O.D (in the college) knew that we're truly in love. It got to an extent that we were nominated as THE BEST COUPLE ON CAMPUS !. I was ceremoniously welcomed the very first time am visiting their family. Though her dad was married to 2 wives, and her mother stays alone (2 avoid ........! you understand).

She love me to the boiling point & ready to go any or extra lenght to make me happy, most expecially when am having any problem.

My dilemma starts when i introduced her to my parent. my mother welcomed her warmly, likewise my sisters & she loves my family as well.

Some months later, my mum called me & ask me to quit the relationship with every capacity. I persuaded her to tell me what's wrong, but she refuse to hit the nail on the head.

After some lenght of provocation, she exclaimed! 'My pastor said your STAR does not work with her, and i can't allow you being my 1st born to marry such a person!.

I was seriously mad at her, but as a mother, i have to calm down.

She kept on putting pressure on me, even until now.

I love this lady & i don't think am ready to leave her for once. I have been to several places but all 2 no avail.

Friends are not helping the matter as they're also imploring me to quit the relationship.

We do love each other more than any one does.

We had sex on several occasion, she had aborted up to twice or more (though, i asked her to leave one, but she insisted).

Though, these are not the main issue.

The main issue is that the love exist between the both of us, and what did you want outside relationship when some one is there for you?.

Please help me.

I don't know what to do, & at the same time, i want my marital life to be more blissful than that of my parent.

please what can i do?

My Reply

For starters, you may wish to speak to the pastor who told your mother that your star and that of your dream girl does not work together.

Since your mother takes the word of her pastor as final, then getting him to accent to the love relationship between the two of you will definitely change your mom's mind toward your love.

So, find the pastor. Relate with him. Take your fiancee to see him.

The problem with the pastor may be a perception problem. Talking one on one with him along with your love may change his mind.

Another thing. Since he is an acclaimed man of God, you could persuade him to use his position to alter the stars so your stars can work together. I hope you get the point. The key here seems to lie with the pastor. Your mother is a believer. And she will believe anything her pastor tells her.

If he tells her tomorrow he has consulted with God and God has shown mercy to your sweetheart and merged her star with yours, your mom will believe him. And she will change her attitude toward her.

So, get in touch with the pastor and ask him to help your fiancee with prayers and fasting (whatever he says is best) . . . anything he can do to turn the tables and see something good for the love relationship.

One other thing.

If I were your brother and I discover the girl you want to marry has committed three abortions, I will be afraid.

If she committed the abortions a long time before she met you, I will understand. But you still have a love relationship and she says she loves you very much. Yet she aborts your babies indiscrimately.

Maybe the pastor has a point. Maybe he doesn't.

Whatever the case, take a second look at the girl. A girl who can sleep with you, get pregnant by you, abort the baby despite your pleadings, and still claim to love you is suspect.

She is a woman with a tough heart.

Perhaps it's that toughness that you love about her.

If you're convinced she's the woman for you, the abortions notwithstanding, do everything you can to make the love relationship work.

However, understand that if your parents are against the love relationship, you're going to have a tough time.

So do as suggested above. Try to work yourself into the pastor's heart.

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